The Wafflings of Nullh

therareandferociousswamprabbit:

***Caution: Redundant thing that someone else has said better dozens of times.***

I’m a HUGE fan of free speech. I love the words cunt, thundercunt, cockgobbler, fingerbanged, hand-whammy, ect. I love being able to learn and talk about trans-rights, the evolution of feminism, gender theory, taxidermy (it’s an art, not just a job or craft), music, animals and design. I also LOVE film. Especially horror, which can truly test the limits of free speech when it comes to women (and men) being victimized both psychologically and physically.

I try never to make jokes at the expense of others, especially never in a public forum, thought sometimes I fail. I make rape jokes, but not about the victims, their rights, or their value as human beings. When I was 15, the first time I had sex was with my boyfriend and it was not consentual. I say this not to say that this gives me the right to make these jokes, but because humour is a powerful means of coping and people deal with their traumas in their own way.

I’ve learned (the hard way, time and time again) that if you want to make these jokes and talk freely about your opinions you can’t assume people understand your meaning or where you’re coming from. And if you hurt someone, you take responsibility. You don’t have to change your opinion, admit that you were wrong, you just acknowledge why the other person is allowed to feel how they do and that you didn’t mean to be hurtful.

If you’re a widely-read publication that has already promoted a culture where you’ve stated that no man should ever have to apologize for anything or make any attempts at seeing members of the opposite gender as humans, should your responsibility be greater than the that of an individual when you done wrong? Yes. (See Spiderman for further details about the importance of power v. responsibility.) Uni Lad writes to young men about what they should ideally be and and how women should change in order to satisfy those ideals.

So if you’re not willing to die for your right to say that it’s okay to exploit and victimize, and that the victims should be blamed for their assaults, rapes, and murders, maybe a simple “sorry” doesn’t cut it. Maybe you need to tell your readers that your publication can print whatever it wants, but it shouldn’t have printed what it did because you’re smart enough to know that rape and assault aren’t things that anyone asks for and a pro-rape culture shouldn’t be perpetrated. 

And if you can’t do that, I’m comfortable publicly stating that you should be raped for all eternity with large anthropomorphic shaping brushes that enjoy raping. 

I completely failed to write anything about this, because it made me feel a bit sick and ashamed. I sat and read some of the other articles on UniLad and they were all near-sociopathic rants featuring acts of the writer’s horrible misogyny. I got me exceedingly angry that this sort of site existed, and the sort of person that wrote it exists.

It wasn’t a joke, either. The whole jokey tone seemed straight from Bullingdon Club, old fashioned idiotic sexism designed to reduce women to nothing more than objects to fuck.

It looks like the site is closed and due to re-open with better editorial standards. I’d suspect they’ll probably clean up their act, and let’s hope the site comes back with a decent message and a re-think of the frankly shocking attitudes it displayed previously. I suspect they won’t have much of a choice, since there will be a lot of eyes on them.

More at HuffPo.